From where I’m sitting I can see a tipped toy basket, hemorrhaging plastic replicas of machines and weapons.
I can see the dishwasher half-open, with the top rack pulled out and half empty. The counter is piled first with dirty dishes, then with clean, and next with more toys.
Nearer to me is the cabinet by my desk, standing open and on the floor are pieces of a day-old tortilla now brittle and crumbling.
Chunks of cheese are cupped in an upturned Darth Vader helmet.
This is just what I can see from my desk, but around the corner is more, and more up the stairs, in the bathroom, down the hall, in the guest room, and everywhere else.
I assure you each night when I retire, every room is tidy. The kitchen is clean and often the floors are swept. All it takes is one solid bout of imaginary play from my four-year-old with the help of his younger brother who’s recently begun walking. All it takes is one hour in which I attempt to tackle some significant task, like laundry or balancing our budget, for the two of them to entertain themselves into a frenzy of homemaking’s undoing. Sometimes I think, “a play room would be great! One room to contain the chaos.” But that’s fantasy parenting at its finest!
My children want to play near me, always near me. They have a bedroom, and more toys in our guest-room, but they carry everything to wherever I am, and grace me with their enthusiastic pretend-play. Today alone my son has discussed being the King Kong of ninjas, told me he doesn’t belong here because he belongs to the future, and explained how he works for a restaurant called “Charlie’s Pizza” that is all out of pistachios. The reason my kitchen is half dirty and half clean is because of all this participation involved.
I know it only takes five minutes to empty the dishwasher!
But I haven’t enjoyed an uninterrupted five minutes unless my children are soundly sleeping. Often the HD will come home to a scatter of projects throughout the house: laundry in different stages of completion, a half-vacuumed room, a partially-prepped meal, and so on. Someday they won’t be near me, I know, and I’ll have more complete thoughts and conversations with myself than will be healthy. I know one day I’ll have to urge them to sit in the same room with me, at the same table with me, ride in the same car with me. Right now the size-6 jeans are home to the largest lap my sons know, one big enough for the two of them.
Welp! This entry will be interrupted, too: I have to sprint my garbage can to the curb for pick up.